One of my biggest pet peeves is people who keep me waiting, or worse, people who cancel on me last minute. I like to pride myself in my punctuality; I even used to win school awards for 100% attendance and 100% punctuality every year for 5 years straight during my high school days – I’m pretty sure that’s gotta count for something, right?
When I plan to meet someone at a certain time, I will be ready at said time (usually with even 5 or 10 minutes to spare) unless there are situations beyond my control like emergencies or accident-induced traffic jams. Also, when I am running late for whatever reason, I would let the other person know via call or IM; it’s just the courteous thing to do. But I’ve had encounters with people with no sense of time at all and who couldn’t even give me a heads up that they might be arriving late. They must’ve never heard of the saying “time is money”. If we were in the movie In Time, no one would ever be late for anything (or wait for anyone) because we’d literally be throwing minutes of our lives away.
I am aware that it is a very stereotypical thing for Indonesians to be late. It’s almost common knowledge – a given – that an event will not start at least 30 minutes after the stated starting time. Most Indonesians know that if you want people to arrive at 7:00 pm, you’d better put 6:30 pm on the invitation. It’s a habit that I wish Indonesians can remedy pronto.
As I mentioned in the beginning of this article, an even bigger pet peeve of mine is people who cancel, or drastically change, plans last minute for no good reason. It just messes with my expectation of how the day / outing / event / whatever it may be would go, and I’m left feeling lost, unprepared and disappointed. If you’ve ever done this to me, chances are you’re gonna have a hard time getting me to agree to any sort of future plans with you. Of course I can understand if something urgent suddenly comes up, and I’d have no problem taking a rain check and rescheduling our meet-up if that were the case. But I’ve had experiences where someone cancelled on me just because they forgot we had plans to meet up and they no longer felt like it. That just shows that I’m not particularly important to you and that you have no respect for me or my time; and I have no patience when it comes to such individuals.
I tend to reciprocate what I get. If someone treats me well and respects me, I will treat that person the same way. But if you treat me like a second option or someone to push over, then I can totally treat you that way too. This blog post might come off as a rant, but I promise it’s not; I just wanted to share one of my pet peeves with you all so that my readers can get to know me better. It makes me feel like we’re bonding, even if only virtually! *^_^*
What are your biggest pet peeves? Let me know in the comments below!